Back to Basics – Hospitality – Day 1

Hospitality day 1

You know that excitement when you visit with someone who makes you feel truly welcome. The dictionary describes hospitality as:

The friendly and generous reception and entertainment of guests, visitors, or strangers.

Hospitality is not just a lovely meal in pleasant surroundings. Hospitality is generosity and kindness and the perfect way of showing Gods love.

You will always remember the way an interaction made you feel, good or bad. I remember to this day visiting a great aunt, the house was always so cold, bitterly cold, she swore like a trooper and in a tone that scared me half to death, her dogs would bark and nip but she never put them outside, I sat on my father’s lap with my legs up, too scared to move & counting the minutes until we could leave. I did not feel welcome at all. I would hate for anyone to feel that way in my home.

I grew up in a very multicultural area of Sydney, Australia. Our family was the only Australians in the street. This is where I learnt about European hospitality. These lovely woman were only too happy to teach me their recipes and there ways of doing things. I remember to this day that whenever you visited, you were made feel welcome and you were given something to eat, they wanted to chat with you. It was a joyful time to visit with them. I always learnt something new from these wonderful  woman.

I was watching Toni Morrison on Oprah and she said something that changed my heart from that day. “Do your eyes light up when a child walks into the room?” How do you answer that?  When people visit your home do your eyes light up? Or are you so busy with all that is going on and presume they know you are happy to see them.

I would like us to really take the time to really take notice of how you relate to people. How do you greet your husband when he comes in from work. The 50’s notion of a perfect house and an immaculately dressed wife and clean and bathed quiet children ready with his slippers and a martini in hand as he walks in the door, is a fantasy.

But how do you greet your husband?  I try to open the door to my husband so that he knows that I am happy to see him. If I am busy at the stove I usually sing out, “I am just so happy to see you, but I just can’t leave the cooking” so when he greets me in the kitchen I am happy to see him and I always look him in the eye. He knows I am happy to have him home.

Take note when you next visit with someone, Do their eyes light up when you walk into the room? How did they make you feel?

I read a wonderful post on hospitality this week from What Christians want to know by Derek Hill –

If you would like to see Toni Morrison on Oprah discussing “do your eyes light up when your child walks into the room” this is the link.


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