It was a difficult night; a decision had to be made. A decision that the administrators and myself did not want to make. A decision that would hurt one but would keep many others from heartache and resentment.
T.D. Jakes says “Christ has given every one of us grace according to the measure of the gift of God. There’s a part of that gift in you and there’s a part of the God-given ability in you. All of us have a role for which we are responsible and with that role comes accountability.”
The administrators and I are responsible for the good of the group. The group is growing in Christ more and more every day. The women are sharing from their hearts more and more every day. It was one of the reasons why the group was formed. The group should be a place of love and understanding in all things, without judgment. The rules of the group are clear; we are to be encouraging and uplifting. To do unto others as you would have them do onto you.
It was become more and more noticeable that this person was trying to do her own thing, to undermine the intent of the group. I, personally, had spoken to her on more than one occasion regarding her comments. I had, personally, on more than one occasion, deleted inappropriate comments.
“These are grumblers, malcontents, following their own sinful desires; they are loud-mouthed boasters, showing favoritism to gain advantage.” ~Jude 1:16
The decision may have been easier had this person not had a prominent place in the group. Yet she did not act in the role for which she was responsible for with accountability. She picked and chose among the group what she would do for them when they came to her. She told others things that were not truth about the group. She took actions in regards to her position that were not in line with the group’s intent.
We knew, from experience, that one bad apple could spoil everything for everyone. “You will recognize them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thorn bushes, or figs from thistles? So, every healthy tree bears good fruit, but the diseased tree bears bad fruit.” ~ Matthew 7:16-17
Were we doing the right thing? There were rules; the rules had been broken on more than one occasion causing heartache and resentment to others. There had been warnings. Were we just doing this because of our personal feelings? We were looking at the pros and cons, trying not to allow our personal feelings to interfere. Were we doing what God wanted us to do in the situation? We were praying.
The decision was made causing heartache and pain but we knew in our hearts that this was the right decision for the good of the group. I believe we handled the situation in a Christian way. This person is not evil but she does not have other’s interest ahead of her own. My heart aches that we caused her pain from removing her from the group yet I know in my heart it was the right decision